REALITY BITES

Staying at USA-CL sure have its moments..hehehe..guess doing nothing gives you alot of time to think about everything..hehehe..
These past few weeks had been a roller coaster ride for me..kinda like that ride in Final Destination 3(wish it was real, and i’m one of those passengers..hehehe)..
Thnks to that magazine in the lab..i’ve realized something..RELIGIOUS magazine sh*t is BENEFICIAL..hehehehe..i’m gonna share what i read and what i learned during that "nothing-to-do-so-lets-read-that-magazine-in-the-info" day..
HERE GOES:

Falling in love happens to everyone:fat, thin, tall, short, intelligent, uneducated, holy, not so holy, dark, white, yellow, green..it really doesn’t matter.
All of us fall in love..And we get stuck in myths that drive us absolutely crazy!
I’m gonna share 2 of these myths..and i’m gonna convince you not to believe them..

MYTH 1: "LOVE WILL CONQUER ALL"
This is such a tricky myth ‘coz LOVE-as defined by the bible-will conquer all, but love-as defined by glazed-eyed lovers-will NOT.
If you believe in this myth, you might:
1.Overlook major obstacles in your relationship
Everyone might wonder why you chose that creature from outer space as you boyfriend. Your best friends are telling you to dump him, your family is telling you to throw him out of a running vehicle, that lady from the sari-sari store told you to lace his drinks with poison..but you won’t..why?..because you’re IN LOVE..(that’s why there are songs entitled:"you and me against the world"..hehehe)
Your best buds comment:"he’s been jobless for 3 years"..
you answer:he’ free-spirited. he feels boxed in when he’s in the office(uhhmm..translation:he’s an undisciplined, lazy bum!)
Your colleagues say:"He flirts with other women constantly!"
you say: No..he’s just friendly(NEWSFLASH!!..he’s a PERVERT!!)
Your cousins told you: "He’s taking drugs. He’s got needle marks all over his arm. You say: No..He’s just into cross stitching(say what????OUCH!!)

2. You overstay in toxic relationships, believing that your love will change the person

You can never change the person, if he/she doesn’t want to start anew..open your eyes, dahling!!..Even a wedding officiated by three Popes cannot transform anybody..The person you’ll march INTO the church, will be the same person you’ll march with OUT of the church. He/she doesn’t change one tiny bit. in fact, marriage makes the hidden more obvious..if he/she was selfish before the wedding, he/she will be even more selfish after you tie the knot..If he/she was hypercritical before marriage, he/she will be more vile and prolific with his criticisms after the wedding..

want the truth?…You need more than feeling of love to make a relationship work. You need mature character, total commitment,and a minimum level of compatibility..especially in the compatibility of values and life mission.."We’re compatible..Our name begins with the letter J..I’m Julie, his Julio. We’re both born in July"(nosebleed?….so DEEP, it makes me wanna cry..hehehehehehe)

MYTH 2: "WHEN ITS TRUE LOVE, YOU WILL KNOW IT THE MOMENT YOU MEET A PERSON"

I’m pretty sure you had this experience before..*wink*

You’re in a crowded room..you’re surrounded by noisy chatter, when suddenly this girl/boy enters the door..your eyes meet..instantly, time stands still, the universe grinds to a halt(deja vu anyone?…hehehe..you know who you are)..Except for this person in front of you, everything in your vision becomes a giant blur. The hubbub of the crowd becomes a soft muffle and, from out of nowhere, you here gentle violin music from the background.

One week later, the person is your boyfriend/girlfriend

A few weeks later, you discover that your bf/gf’s a pathological liar, buried in debt, borrows money from all his gf/bfs(you’re his 8th in SIX MONTHS!!!)

your mind says, "dump him"

your heart says,"but it was love at first sight"

CONSEQUENCES????,,here goes:

1.You become so focused on the magical first moment, you become blind to the dark sides of the relationship

Six out of seven days, you’re fighting with your boyfriend/girlfriend..but you can’t give him/her up because you met in such a magical moment..Your car keys fell, and he picked it up, and then, your eyes met, you smelled his deodorant, and you dropped your keys again..(or in rare occasions, you came out of the blood bank dept..sat in the screening area, saw her haggard face..and your world stopped..hehehe)..how could you not be meant for each other???

2.You become a love-at-first-sight junkie that you could miss out on the "real thing"

Listen..You don’t need a magical first moment to meet your Mr. Right..The important things are mature character, financial responsibility, and ability for commitment..It doesn’t have to be love at first sight..In fact relationships with the least adjustments are those between friends, who’ve known each other for years before they realized that they were meant to be together..

Love at first sight?..NAH!!..many times, it’s just lust at first sight..or infatuation at first sight..don’t give it to much weight..

Truth is..It takes a moment to experience infatuation, but true love takes a lifetime..

WHEW!!..reality does bite..hehehe..thanks to that freakin’ mag..i realized a lot of things..damn!..if i was cynical before..these really turned me into a non-believer..hehehe..kiddin’ aside..there’s some truth to what i said..and believe me..thinking about these things before plunging into the deep end of intimacy could save you a lot of tears, and it can protect you from countless heartaches..

Guys..take it easy..just wade into the shallow part first and move your way down into the deep end of the pool..alright?…Love doesn’t need that violin music or that "my world stopped when i saw you" crap..

Be a realist..LOVE needs more of "we’ll do our parts to make this work" and less of that,"i don’t care if you’re committed..i love you and i cant go on living without you coz you’re the only girl for me" crap..

LOVE-AT-FIRST SIGHT..LOVE WILL CONQUER ALL..sweet the words may be..but you have to open your eyes..they are not REAL..they may be for some..but it doesn’t last long..and it isn’t always perfect..for even if these word could be something you could relate to..or something you think is a part of your life..this could be nothing more than just MYTHS..